1 Coping with anger Manejo de la ira

2 Let’s Get it Started….. - Anger and fear are two of humanity’s most basic emotions. - Fear, or anxiety, usually makes people want to run away, often at great cost to themselves. - Anger makes a person want to fight back -La ira y el miedo son dos de las emociones más básicas de la humanidad. El miedo o ansiedad, generalmente hace que la gente quiere huir, a menudo con un gran costo para ellos mismos. El miedo hace que una persona quiere luchar

3 Anger ira Anger is a strong feeling of displeasure with someone or something, combined with an urge to fight back. Anger is a normal emotion Expressing anger may sometimes be healthy, but losing control is not. Like anxiety, anger produces physical changes,. La ira es un fuerte sentimiento de desagrado con alguien o algo, combinado con ganas de luchar. El enojo es una emoción normal Expresando ira a veces puede ser saludable, pero no perder el control es. Como ansiedad, ira produce cambios físicos.

4 Anger Producing Situations Being teased Being insulted Jealousy Insults to friends or family Being talked about Being stood up Having possessions taken or broken Burlarse Insultar Envidia Tener posesiones tomadas o roto Insultos a amigos o familiares

5 Take a minute and come up with 3-5 situations that usually make you angry. How do you feel? ¿Cómo te sientes? How do you respond? ¿Cómo respondes? Turn to page 35 in your student guide and complete the worksheet Vaya a la página 35 en la guía del estudiante y completar la hoja de cálculo

6 Points to Make People become angry when they lose or cant get something they feel is important, which may be anything from personal belongings to respect. The feeling of anger can range from annoyance and mild irritation to rage. The level of anger depends on the situation. Some people don’t recognize their own anger, but experience it instead as sadness or anxiety.

7 Reasons For and Against Anger Turn to page 36, Anger-Keep it in or let it out? ◦ ¿Entregarlo a la página 36, ira-guarde o dejarlo salir? Give reasons for and against controlling anger ◦ Dar razones para y contra controlando ira

8 Points to Make Both choices-unleashing anger and controlling it- have consequences. It’s important to be aware of what they are. Possible results of losing control rage from hurt feelings and misunderstanding to broken friendships, physical violence, pain, suffering, and trouble with the law. Its usually easier for people to get what they want when they stay in control Ambas opciones-desatando ira y controlar es tener consecuencias. Es importante ser consciente de lo que son. Posibles resultados de pérdida de control de rabia de sentimientos heridos y la incomprensión a amistades rotas, violencia física, el dolor, sufrimiento y problemas con la ley. Generalmente más fácil para las personas a obtener lo que quieren cuando permanecen en control

9 Points to Make Anxiety-reducing techniques, especially deep breathing and mental rehearsal, can also help to control anger. ◦ Técnicas de reducción de ansiedad, especialmente profunda respiración y ensayo mental, también puede ayudar a controlar la ira. Just as it’s easier to put out a fire when it’s small than when it’s roaring blaze, it’s also easier to control anger before it becomes a raging fury.

10 Techniques for Controlling Anger Warning light de llamada Counting to tenContar Self-statements Reframe Page 37

11 Warning Light Techniques Picture a light inside your head. Imagine that it flashes a warning when you need to stop and think before speaking or acting. ◦ Foto una luz dentro de tu cabeza. Imagina que parpadea una advertencia cuando tienes que parar y pensar antes de hablar o actuar. Remember to check your light whenever you are in a situation that is making you angry. ◦ Recuerde revisar tu luz cuando estás en una situación que te hace enojar.

12 Take out a sheet of Paper and draw your Warning light. Saca una hoja de papel y dibujar tu luz de advertencia.

13 Counting-to-Ten 1. Taking a deep breath and start counting slowly to yourself. Tomar una respiración profunda y comienzan a contar con lentamente a ti mismo. 2. Keep listening to the other person as you count. Don’t provoke him or her by revealing what you are doing. Sigan escuchando a la otra persona como cuentas. No provoques al revelar lo que está haciendo él o ella. 3. Look the other person in the eye Mira la otra persona en el ojo This technique only works if the other person does not know your counting….

14 Self-Statement Sometimes just telling yourself not to get angry can help keep you calm. Here are some examples of effective self-statements: This is not worth fighting about I can resolve this without fighting I can handle this I can stay calm I can control my reactions People tend to believe what they tell themselves. If we tell ourselves we’re angry, then we will be. If we tell ourselves we’re in control, then there’s a good chance that’s how we’ll feel and act.

15 Reframing Is this worth getting angry about? Am I sure this person is really out to hurt or insult me? Is there another way to get what I want? Sometimes the things that make us angry happen by accident and have nothing to do with us personally Changing our views of a situation can change our reaction to it

16 Definitions Reframing means changing the way one thinks about a situation Reencuadre significa cambiar la forma en que uno piensa en una situación Control- the power to direct, manage, or hold back Control-el poder de dirigir, gestionar, o sostener detrás Self-statement- A statement one tells oneself to stay in control Declaración de Self-statement-A uno se dice estar en control

17 Summary It’s normal for people to get angry when they feel threatened. Since expressing anger can have negative consequences, it’’s usually better to stay in control. It’s possible for people to learn how to be cool, calm, and in control by practicing techniques that encourage them to stop and think before they act. Es normal que la gente a enojarse cuando se sienten amenazados. Desde expresando ira puede tener consecuencias negativas, '' es generalmente mejor estar en control. Es posible que la gente a aprender a ser fresco, tranquilo y en el control mediante la práctica de técnicas que les anima a parar y pensar antes de actuar.